How to Get Along With People

Getting along with people can be tough. Some people can’t make friends, some people find themselves getting angry about everything, and some people have a bunch of friends they don’t want. No matter what your hurdles are, you’ll find some advice that can help in this wikiHow. Just get started with Step 1 below or find a section listed above that seems to cover your problem.

Understanding People
Accept human nature. Humans make mistakes. People aren’t always nice. They say the wrong thing, they get distracted, they forget. You have to remember: all of the problems that you have in your life right now, all of your pain, they have that too. Everyone is dealing with their own set of problems. This is important to remember when you’re trying to get along with people who are very difficult or seem to be ignoring you; everyone is just doing the best that they can.

Try to find sympathy or empathy for them. Sympathy is when you understand or try to understand why someone feels the way they do. Empathy is when you’ve been there yourself and you know how they feel. Both are great feelings to have towards another person. When someone is being difficult or they’re ignoring you, try to understand their feelings. Understand that just because you don’t share them, the feelings and experiences that they have are still valid. Remember that they’re doing the best that they can and that they’re struggling with their own problems. Think about how your problems sometimes make you meaner than you’d like or make you do things that you regret. This will make you feel better and should make your interactions with them better too.

Put yourself in their place. Think about what people do and then think about what you’d do in their position. Remove as much of your personal bias as possible and remember that they might not be as emotionally developed or sensitive as you are. Would you make the same choices that they did? Be truthful with yourself. The answer will often be yes, so try to cut people a break.

Respect that there are lots of valid choices. People are all very different: that’s what makes life interesting. And just like people are all different and aren’t just black and white cookie cutter characters, the world is also very complex. Every situation is different, always. Just because someone doesn’t make the choice that you would make or just because they take a less efficient or smart path to get where they’re going doesn’t make them wrong. Life isn’t a test with an answer sheet: it’s just something that we have to do for ourselves and we can’t hold other people to our standards.

Think about how kids act and think. When you’re really having a tough time with people, think about kids. Kids often say the wrong things and do the wrong things because they’re still learning. The tough thing about life is that it’s very complex. There’s a lot to learn. Some people might not have learned all their lessons yet. Try to treat them with the same patience that you would treat a child, without being patronizing. We’re all in the process of growing up, our entire lives.

Handling Your Frustrations
Fix problems that can and should be solved. When you’re having problems with people, you should start by identifying what those problems are exactly. If the problems are serious problems that need to be addressed, such as someone being a jerk or doing something dangerous, then this is something that you should call out and work to fix. You should not accept or ignore bad behavior. However, if someone is just annoying or different and that makes you uncomfortable, then it’s a good idea to move on to other outlets.

Remember that this is temporary. Develop your patience to help you deal with people who piss you off. A good starting point is to remember that, as the great Joseph Campbell so liked to quote, “this too shall pass”. Everything is temporary in this world, including that annoying guy in your office. You have to learn to not let yourself get caught up in the negative feelings you have and instead push them aside so that you can focus on creating more positive feelings.
Try distracting yourself with work if you’re struggling with this step.

Sing a song in your head. If someone’s annoying you, try singing a song in your head in order to keep yourself calm and keep your behavior appropriate. You can sing any song you like! “Let it Go” from Disney’s Frozen is a good start, assuming the song hasn’t already driven you insane.

Imagine that you’re somewhere else. Another tactic is to pretend that you’re somewhere else while you’re dealing with frustrating people. Pretend that everyone driving you crazy is a cat that’s just meowing constantly. Sometimes cats get annoying but they’re usually cute later, right? You can also imagine that you’re somewhere else altogether, like floating down a river in summertime. Just imagine the sound of the cicadas and the bubbling of the water…

Reward yourself later. A good way to keep your cool in tough situations if you’re having to concentrate too much to distract yourself is to just promise yourself a reward for being a good sport. For example, tell yourself that if you remain polite you get an ice cream. If you help the person, even though they’re driving you crazy, then you get a double scoop of the good stuff!

Practice forgiveness. Forgive people when they do make mistakes. Sometimes you just have to stop and give people the benefit of the doubt. They might really be sorry or they might really not know that what they did was bad. You have to forgive them so that you can move on yourself to happier feelings. No one wants to get stuck thinking about how mad they are at someone.

Communicating Well
Keep an open mind. Sometimes you have to give people the benefit of the doubt: you might think that they hate you but they might be honestly trying to be nice to you. For example, when people invite you to parties, really consider going instead of just brushing the invitation aside because you don’t think they’re serious.

Thank people, even when they’re making you mad. Even when someone’s making you mad, thank them for their effort to help or their suggestions. They usually mean well and being a jerk or ungrateful isn’t going to make you feel any better. Just be nice and wait until they go on their way. Really, sometimes thanking someone is the fastest way to get them to shut up.

Say what you mean. When you’re trying to connect with people, start by being honest. Say what you really mean instead of trying to dance around the subject or be passive aggressive.

Set limits. If you’re uncomfortable with people, set limits on your interactions in order to keep yourself protected. For example, if they’re always wanting to do things but you’re not that social, tell people you’re only available at certain times and on certain days (no exceptions). If someone that you have to spend time with is wanting to discuss topics that make you uncomfortable, let them know when you don’t want to talk about a subject.
When trying to excuse yourself from a topic, use words like “I feel”. People will usually be more respectful when you directly say how something makes you feel bad.

Recognize people. Sometimes people just need to be seen and feel like you really understand them. If someone keeps bothering you, let them say what they really want to say. Let them talk about what’s bothering them. This might give them the release they need in order to go back to business as usual.

Think about what your words really say. Sometimes we say things without really thinking about what those words really mean or how they might make someone else feel. Has someone ever said something to you that made you really upset? It can feel pretty bad and stick with you for a long time. It’s even worse when they don’t feel bad about it! Think about the things you say before you say them, and try to think of how those words affect others. For example, a joke may be funny to you but to someone else they might be extremely hurtful for very good reasons. Saying these jokes may be what gives you problems with so many people to begin with, because you accidentally make so many people hurt and uncomfortable.

Bonding with People
Be a force of positivity. People don’t like to be around people that are really negative, complainy, or talk about violent stuff. It makes them worry that you’re not quite right in the head! Instead of being a little Eeyore, be the person who sees good everywhere in the world. See the bright side of negative situations. Be the person who sees the lesson that can be taken away. Be the person that has hope, no matter the circumstance. When you have an overwhelmingly positive spirit, especially in the wake of terrible circumstances in your own life, people will be drawn to you because you will inspire them when they’re having a tough time applying this advice to their own life!

Contribute to all your relationships. Remember, you’re not just entitled to someone’s friendship or love. We all have to work together and give equally in all our relationships. Both friendships and romances are partnerships. If someone you care about seems to be pulling away or things between you are getting really hard, think about if you’re really carrying your weight. Do you do the things that you’re expecting of them? Do you provide them with as much benefit as they provide you? If not, it might be time to work on your approach.
Make sure you appreciate them and do nice things for them every now and again.

Don’t see this as a direct transaction. For example, just because you give your girlfriend a gift doesn’t mean she’s obligated to have sex with you. Instead, do things because you believe people really deserve them, not because you want to get something in return.

Be an active listener. Sometimes, what someone really needs in their life is someone that will really listen to them. If you feel you don’t have much to offer, at least be a good listener and a shoulder to cry on when their life is hard.

Help people. Helping people is a great way to connect and make friends. You can help the people around you with the basic stuff in their lives, like tutoring or work, or you can help people who are really in need and give yourself a larger sense of fulfillment and purpose.
Consider serious volunteer work. You can try Habitat for Humanity, which build homes for people in need, or try Big Brothers Big Sisters, which lets you mentor an at-risk youth. Put your wisdom and love to good use!

Do something together. Doing things together is another great way to bond with people and make friends. You can work together on a project for school or work (or even work together on something nice for the neighborhood). You can also try a new activity together. Joining clubs is a great way to meet people and make friends who share your interests. These activities will give you more to talk about and lots of chances to interact and get to know each other.

Complain together! It’s not the most positive thing or even the best choice, but complaining together can be a really quick way to bond with people. Don’t start complaining out of nowhere though! Watch and listen to them and pay attention to their reactions to situations. This will help you find something that they don’t like. You can then comment on and complain about what you already know bothers them, instead of risking offending them. Don’t take complaining too far though: instead, use it to start a conversation and move on to other topics!

Give things time. Changing your behavior is hard!

Sometimes problems getting along with other people might be because you have problems with how your brain works. If you feel like you’re having more trouble than other people, try talking to a doctor. They might be able to help you and find you specific help for your needs.

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How to Design and Sew Cold Weather Mitts for Drop Handlebars

If you ride a bicycle in cooler weather, it is likely that you’ve had cold, numb hands by the end of a ride. Commercial mitts are available starting around $75 USD, but if you are handy with a sewing machine, you can create your own mitts for significantly less money.

Obtain the “Things You Will Need” from the list at the end of the article.

Lay your bicycle down so that the side of one handlebar rests over the sheet of paper on the floor. Trace the handlebar shape onto the sheet of paper. Add approximately 1/2 an inch all around to allow for seam widths. Add another 5 inch “wedge from the top point of the handlebar brake “hoods” back toward the wrist.

Remove your bike and refine the tracing, smoothing out edges and addingmore seam allowance. (You can always sew it smaller later on… but if you cut the pieces too small, you cannot enlarge them at a later point.) Take care to add around an inch extra to the seam allowance by the narrow, bar ends. This opening must be able to slide over the ends of your handlebars later on.

Place your pattern piece over the fabric and pin it in place. You will need to cut four of this shape from your quilted material.

If you have side mounted brake lines such as Shimano Ultegra or 105’s, you will need to draw a line from your brake hoods back to your handle bar. This will be where you will cut a slit to accommodate your brake lines. If you cut a slit for your brake lines, you will need to finish the edges of that slit before you continue with the mitts. Sew your bias tape over the edges of the slit or roll the edges under and away from the open edge to prevent fraying.

Note the cut line in the “template” or “trial version” on the left. This was placed on the handlebars and cut “in situ” to find the correct placement of the brakeline slit.

Pin the two sides of each mitt together. You should have two, opposite, mitts. Double check this while pinning so that you don’t inadvertently end up with two right handle mitts and no left mitt or vice versa.

Sew the two sides together along the top and bottom edges. (marked with red lines in the picture) You will need to leave two openings. One for the hands and one for the handle bar end. (small, pointed end.) Note in this picture, the slit for the brake lines has already been finished.

Finish the seams you just sewed by either zigzagging over the raw edges or by sewing bias tape to cover the raw edges to prevent fraying.

Finish the pointed, narrow end in the same manner as above, taking care to leave enough room for that end to slide up and over the ends of your handlebars. (These should fit loosely. If they are tight? You will need to unpick some of the seams to enlarge the opening to allow them to slide over smoothly.)

Turn the mitts “right side out” so that the seam allowances are to the inside. Finish the edges of the hand openings by sewing a strip of double fold bias tape over the edges.

Pin the hook and loop (aka “Velcro”)strips to the edges of your brake line slit and bottom handle bar opening to form closures. Stitch them in place.

Place the mitts on your drop bars and enjoy warmer hands on your next cold ride!
A little extra space all around is better than too tight. The mitts keep you warmer by deflecting the wind around your fingers and not by “insulating” them per se, so a little extra wiggle room is a good thing. Too tight, and you will have problems manipulating your brakes and/or shifter levers.

A stiffener around the outer edges to hold them open is a good idea. This can be accomplished several ways… threading a stiff wire through the bias tape edging… sewing a strip of flexible, yet stiff plastic along that edge, (think strip cut from a 2 liter bottle, or from a flexible kitchen cutting mat) and etc.

Things You’ll Need
Approximately 24″ X 40″ of quilted, windproof material. This can be purchased new at a fabric store or repurposed from an old jacket. The mitts in the pictures were created by layering a thick fleece fabric between two layers of rip-stop nylon and then quilting it in lines before cutting.

Around of Double Fold Bias Tape to cover raw edges. You can either purchase this or create your own Bias Tape if you wish.

Color coordinated thread to sew with. (if your thread matches your material, your seams will be less noticeable.)

Approximately 15 inches of hook and loop tape (aka “Velcro”) Use the Sew on type The peel-and-stick variety will not work as well in this project.

A large sheet of paper and a marker.

Your bicycle handlebars to use as a template.

A Sewing machine, scissors, pins etc.

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How to Grow a Cactus

Whether you’re planning to eat them or just look at them, cacti can make great additions to your home or garden. While most people associate the word “cactus” with images of lone, spiny saguaros sitting in dry desert wastes, in fact, the Cactaceae family also contains tropical varieties that can thrive in humid environments.[1] Caring for either type of cactus means paying close attention to the amount of sun, water, and soil it has access to and making minor adjustments to each so that the plant can thrive. See Step 1 below to get started.

Planting a Cactus from Seed
Pick seed pods from existent cacti or buy commercial seeds. When it comes to obtaining seeds for your cactus, you have two options: buying seeds from a gardening store or supplier or picking your own from a cactus that you already have at your disposal. Here, you are essentially choosing between price and convenience — store-bought seeds are cheap and pre-packaged, while self-picked seeds are free but require a little more work. If you’re buying seeds, you shouldn’t have too much trouble finding themfor sale. Many brick-and-mortar garden supply stores sell cactus seeds, while online shopping sites can allow you to effortlessly browse hundreds of varieties before ordering.

If, on the other hand, you want to pick your own seeds, start by findingthe seed pods or fruits on your cactus. Usually, these are brightly-colored offshoots of the main cactus body which bear a flower. When the flower falls off, the pod or fruit is ripe and is ready to be harvested (assuming it has been pollinated).

If harvesting seeds from cactus pods, gather the pods. Remove the pods or fruits from the cactus before they dry out. The pods should not be full of moisture but should still be damp to the touch inside. The seeds themselves, which are inside the pod or fruit can vary in appearance from cactus to cactus. Some seeds will be discrete black or reddish dots clearly visible from one another, while other seeds can be so small as to appear like sand or dust.
One good indicator of maturity is in how the pod comes off of the cactus. “Ripe” pods with mature seeds should come off with a slight twist of the hand, leaving the interior fiber/cotton on the cactus.

Next, harvest the seeds from the pods. Once you’ve removed all of the mature pods from your cactus, it’s time to remove the seeds themselves from the pods. Begin by using a sharp knife to slice the tops off of the pods. Next, slice down one side of the pod to expose the seeds. Finally, remove the seeds by carefully scraping them from the inside of the pod.
Obtaining the seeds from tropical varieties of cactus can be different than obtaining the seeds from a desert cactus, but the general concept is the same — remove the fruit from the plant and open it up to expose the seeds. For example, the seeds of a Christmas Cactus, a type of tropical cactus, can be harvested by removing the blueberry-like fruit and squeezing or tearing it open to produce small black seeds.[2]

Plant the seeds in high-drainage soil. Whether you bought seeds or harvested them from an existent cactus, you’ll want to plant them in clean, shallow containers filled with suitable soil. Moisten the soil thoroughly before planting but do not allow any standing water to remain. Next, spread the seeds across the top of the soil (don’t bury them). Finally, lightly cover the seeds with a very thin layer of soil or sand. Cactus seeds only have a small amount of stored energy and if planted too deeply will not reach the surface before they run out.
It’s important to use a high-drainage soil for planting your cactus,especially if you’re dealing with desert varieties. Since desert cacti aren’t used to receiving high amounts of water in their natural habitat, they can be susceptible to root diseases if the moisture in the soil is not allowed to drain. Try using a high-quality potting mix with a high pumice or granite content for exceptional drainage.[3]
If the soil you use for planting hasn’t been pasteurized (it should say whether or not on the packaging), you may want to consider heating it in the oven at 300o F (about 150o C) for half an hour. This kills any pests or pathogens in the soil.

Cover the container and expose it to sun. Once you’ve moistened the oil and planted your cactus seeds, cover the container with a transparent lid (like plastic wrap) and place it in a location where the seeds will receive a good amount of sun — a sunny window is a good location. Sunlight should not be intense and constant, but should be strong for at least a few hours each day. The transparent lid will retain moisture in the container as the cactus begins to sprout while allowing light to reach the cactus.
Be patient as you wait for your cactus to germinate. Depending on the species of cactus you are growing, germination can take anywhere from several weeks to several months.[4]
Tropical cacti are used to the shady environment under the jungle canopyand thus generally require less sun than desert cacti. You can usually get away with growing a tropical cactus in a brightly-lit spot that receives no direct sunlight. For instance, hanging pots under a shaded awning are a great location for tropical cacti.

Keep tropical cacti at a steady, warm temperature. While desert cacti in their natural environment are routinely exposed to extreme temperature swings (from extremely hot during the day to extremely cold at night), tropical cacti enjoy balmy, consistently warm weather. Thus, it’s a wise idea to grow tropical cacti in locations where they won’t experience intense, direct sunlight during the day or chilly cold at night. Try to keep tropical cacti at a temperature of roughly 70-75o F (21-24o C) — greenhouses are great for this.
If you don’t live in the tropics, you’ll probably need to grow yourtropical cacti indoors, where temperature and access to sunlight is much easier to control.

Caring for a Cactus
When the first spines show, allow the plant to ventilate. In the weeks after you plant your new cactus seeds, your seedling should begin to germinate. Cacti typically grow fairly slowly, so this can take a month or more.[5] Eventually, you should be able to see the first tiny emergence of your cactus’s spines. When this happens, start giving your cactus a chance to breathe by removing the transparent cover during the day. As the cactus grows, you may leave the cover off for longer periods of time until the plant is well-established and no longer needs the cover.
It’s worth noting, however, that this will increase the rate at which water evaporates from the soil. This means that you’ll need to start watering. Try to do so cautiously — don’t let the soil dry out completely, but don’t ever leave standing water in the container from over-watering.

Note that many tropical cacti won’t have spines, so in this case simply remove the cover once the seedling sprouts up through the soil.

Repot your cacti when they are well-established. As noted above, cacti grow fairly slowly. Depending on the type of cactus you have, it should take about 6 months to 1 year to grow to roughly the size of a large marble.[6] At this point, it’s a wise idea to repot the cactus in a different container. Like most potted plants, keeping a cactus in a container that’s to small for it can cause the plant to become nutrient-starved, inhibiting its growth and even killing it.
To repot your cactus, use sturdy gloves or a spade to remove the entire plant, roots and all, from its growing medium. Place it in a new, larger container with a the same type of soil, pack the soil around the cactus, and water.

Allow cacti to recover from repotting in the shade. As the visible, above-ground portion of your cactus grows, its roots will as well. As your cactus becomes larger and larger, which can take years, it may need to be repotted multiple times. However, because the transplantation process can be stressful for plants, it’s important that you allow your cactus to “recover” after each time you repot it. Instead of keeping the repotted cactus in a location where it receives a good amount of sunlight, try keeping it in a shaded or partially-shaded area until its roots re-establish. Gradually re-introduce the cactus to sun over a period of a month or so.

Water infrequently. Established cacti have less vigorous watering requirements than most other potted plants. Though they do require some water, their reputation as hardy desert survivors is well-earned. Most varieties of desert cactus require little water once they’re fully established. Though individual species of cactus may differ in the amount of water they require, a good general rule is to let the soil dry out completely before watering. Depending on the temperature, this mean waiting a month or longer between waterings.
Remember that cacti experience slow, gradual growth. Thus, they don’t need very much water. Watering more frequently than is necessary can lead to to problems for the plant, including root disorders that can cause the eventual death of the plant.

Tropical cacti are something of an exception to this rule, as they are naturally acclimatized to more humid environments than desert cacti. While you can get away with a little more watering if you have a tropical cactus, you should still wait until the soil dries out before each new watering.

Fertilize young plants during the growing months. Though, as noted above, cacti grow slowly, their growth can be supplemented during the growing months of spring and summer with the light application of fertilizer or plant food. Cacti generally require less fertilizer than other plants — try using a dilute solution of liquid fertilizer once a month. Mix a small quantity of liquid fertilizer with an equal volume of water, then use this mixture to water your cactus as you normally would.
The precise amount of fertilizer you should use can vary based on both the species of cactus you are growing and its size. Specific information should be on the fertilizer’s packaging.

Troubleshooting Common Cactus Problems
Prevent rot by avoiding over-watering. One of the most common problems when it comes to potted plants is fungal rot (also called root rot). This affliction typically occurs when the roots of a plant are held in contact with moisture that is unable to properly drain, which becomes stagnant and encourages fungal growth. This can happen to most potted plants, but desert cacti are especially susceptible as they naturally require only a small amount of water compared to other plants. The best cure for rot is a preventative one: simply avoid over-watering in the first place. As a general rule, it’s better to under-water than to over-water when it comes to cacti. You’ll also want to use a good-quality potting soil with a high level of drainage for all cacti.
If your plant has rot, it may appear swollen, soft, brownish, and/or decayed, with the possibility of splits in its surface. Often, but not always, this condition moves from the bottom of the plant up. The options for treating rot after it has set in are limited. You can try to remove the cactus from its pot, cut away any slimy, blackened roots and any dead tissue above ground, and re-plant it in a new container with clean soil. However, if the damage to the roots is extensive, it may die anyway. In many cases, it’s necessary to discard plants with rot to prevent the spread of the fungus to other adjacent plants.[7]

Gradually increase exposure to sunlight to treat etoliation. Etoliation is a condition in which a plant experiences pale, sickly growth because it is not exposed to enough light. Cacti with etoliated growth will often have a thin, flimsy quality and a pale, light-green color. The etoliated portion of the plant will grow towards a nearby light source, if there are any. While etoliation is permanent in the sense that any sickly growth that has already occurred cannot be reversed, future etoliation can be curbed by ensuring the plant receives a sufficient amount of sunlight.
However, you won’t want to throw a cactus with etoliated growth into intense, direct sunlight immediately. Instead, gradually increase the amount of sun the plant receives each day until you notice that its growth has become normal. Exposing any plant to drastically increased sunlight can be stressful for the plant, while exposing an etoliated cactus to such levels of sunlight can be fatal.

Avoid phototoxicity by limiting sun exposure after using pesticides. If you’ve ever noticed that you’ve gotten an especially-bad sunburn after being in water, you’ve experienced something similar to phototoxicity, a harmful malady that can affect your plant. After applying an oil-based pesticide to a plant, the oil from the pesticide remains on the surface of the plant, acting as a sort of “tanning lotion” by increasing the intensity of the sun’s rays. This can cause the portions of the plant on which the oil is present to become burnt, grey, and dried-out. To prevent this, place the cactus in a shaded location for a few days until the oil-based pesticide has done its work before returning it to the sun.

Don’t be frightened by natural “corking”. One aspect of the cactus life cycle with which most people are not familiar is the process of “corking”, in which the bottom portions of a mature cactus slowly start to develop a tough, brown, bark-like exterior. Though this condition can appear serious because it replaces the natural green exterior with one that appears dead, it’s not actually a sign that the plant is in any danger and can usually be ignored. Natural corking usually starts at the base of the plant and can slowlycreep upwards. If the corking starts elsewhere on the plant, this can be a sign of a problem. For instance, if the top of the cactus and the side facing the sun bear this weathered appearance but the base of the cactus does not, this can be a sign that the cactus is receiving too much sun, rather than the result of natural corking.[8]

Use the same soil mix in each pot you replant your cactus to.

If you want to grow many cacti, you may grow them all in the same container, evenly-spaced apart. When each grows to the size of a large marble, transplant it to its own container.

Try to use plant food.

Use thick gloves to handle any cacti on which spines have grown.

Look out for parasites on your cactus, especially Mealy Bugs, which often appear as white blobs. Pick them off with a stick or skewer and use a pesticide to remove any bugs in tough-to-reach spots.

Use a pesticide like malathion to kill Red Spider Mites and Scale, which show up as brown spots.

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How to Make Blueberry Banana Bread

A step-by-step guide to making banana blueberry bread with a hint of honey. This recipe is a great way to transform overly ripe bananas and blueberries into a delicious, moist and flavorful bread.
Makes 1 loaf (approximately 8 servings) or 3 small loaves

2 cups all-purpose flour

½ teaspoon salt

1 teaspoon baking soda

1 cup sugar

1 stick (½ cup) butter or margarine, softened

1 teaspoon vanilla

2 eggs

1 generous tablespoon honey

2 large ripe bananas, mashed

1 cup fresh blueberries

Preheat the oven to 350°F (175℃).

Grease 1 large loaf pan.

Mix flour, baking soda, and salt together in a bowl.
This will be referred to as the dry mixture.

Use an electric mixer to beat butter and sugar together in a large bowl, until light and fluffy.
The mixture should be noticeably lighter in color.

Add 1 egg and blend the mixture, then add the second egg along with the vanilla extract, and honey. Beat this new mixture.
It is hard to have too much vanilla. It just adds (delicious) flavor.

Beat mashed bananas thoroughly into the mixture.

Add the dry mixture in small increments while beating slowly until the mixture combines into a thick batter.

Fold blueberries into the batter.

Pour batter into loaf pan.

Bake in oven for 45-55 minutes.
To check readiness, insert toothpick (or knife) into the center of the bread. If it comes out clean, it is ready!

Cool in the pan for 10 minutes before enjoying your delectable creation!

Don’t be afraid to be liberal with the honey and the vanilla. They just add flavor to the already delicious bread!

Keep the eggs in their container, lest they roll off the counter and fall on the floor.

Start cleaning up while the bread is in the oven.

Taste the batter. If the batter is good, the bread will be good! Warning: The consumption of raw eggs may increase your risk of food borne illness.

Things You’ll Need
9″ x 5″ Loaf pan

2 Large mixing bowls

Large spoon

Rubber spatula

Electric mixer or whisk

Measuring spoons

Measuring cup for wet ingredients

Measuring cup for dry ingredients


Oven mitts

Timer or Clock

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“Blueberry Banana Bread.” 07 Oct. 2014. http://FunPakMaza.Net

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How to Propose to a Man

You’ve decided he’s Mr. Right, and you keep dropping hints, but he just doesn’t get it. You can try to nudge him in the right direction, but if that’s not your style, why wait for the guy to pop the question? There’s no reason why a woman can’t be the one doing the proposing. And if you’re a guy proposing to a guy, the same ideas and steps apply.

Planning the Proposal
Figure out if you’re ready for this next step. Marriage is a big step and you want to be sure that you’re taking that step for the right reasons, because you’ve found someone that you honestly want to spend the rest of your life with, not because all your friends are getting married and you think you need to, as well.[1]
If you’re looking to get married because you’re trying to ‘save’ the relationship or because you’re scared of being alone, those are not reasons to get married. In fact, it’s probably a good idea to let the relationship go.

However, if you know for certain that marriage to this guy is what youwant, then it’s time to go for it and put your energy into making it happen.

Talk about marriage and commitment with your guy. Popping the question should not be the first time the two of you discuss commitment and marriage. You don’t necessarily have to talk about it in terms of the two of you (although, you probably should) but it is important to suss out his feelings about this very important thing, especially if you’re going to be proposing to him.[2] Pay attention to how he talks about the future and what he says. If hetalks about “we” and “us” (referring to the two of you) in future endeavors, if the two of you live together, own a pet together, have moved somewhere together, he is pretty committed to you.

This does not necessarily mean that he is ready for marriage, or even wants marriage, so that is something the two of you should discuss.

You can even find a way to talk about relationships in general, or bring up your concerns up in a potential, distant future type of way. For example: “Becky just proposed to Henry in front of his entire family. I think I’d want to do a quieter proposal, don’t you think?”

Make the proposal about him. When you’re planning to propose to a guy you want to make sure that the proposal is about him and what he loves. If you wanted a big proposal in a fancy restaurant in front of everyone, that doesn’t mean he would want that. You know your guy best, so make sure you use that knowledge.[3]
For example, if he’s really in to fishing, plan a fishing excursion withhim and put a note in the tackle box that says “will you marry me?”

Another example: if he’s a big fan of a certain band, plan a proposalaround a show the band is doing in your area (or go wherever the band is performing, even if it’s a distance away).

This doesn’t mean that you should ignore yourself and your desires completely. The proposal should be something that is important and memorable to you, as well. You just have to find some sort of middle ground. For instance, you could follow the fishing date with a three-course candle-lit dinner at a lovely restaurant.

Plan the proposal. Spontaneity is a great thing, but for something like a marriage proposal, you want to have enough of it planned that you can follow the plan even when you’re nervous (because you will be nervous, but that’s expected!). especially if you’re making it a big deal, you want to have all the components figured out.[4]
You’ll need to pick a specific place to pop the question, preferably somewhere that has meaning to both of you. It could be where you went on your first date, or it could be the first place you kissed. Picking a place that has meaning to you both works two ways, one, it’s already special to you both and two, it provides a great segue into your proposal!

Timing is everything. It’s better to pick a time when he’s relaxed and receptive to making or thinking about making a big change. It’s less good to do it when he’s stressed about work or school, or distracted by something else (like if you’re both at a football game and he’s paying more attention to the game than you and what you’re trying to ask).

You’ll want to make sure that the mood is right for what you’re about todo. It could be something as simple as lighting a few candles, or pouring out some nice champagne, or you could have a whole lavish dinner set-up. You’ll need to consider what is important to the two of you.

If you’re including other people in your proposal (children, familymembers, friends, animals) you’ll need to make sure that they know what they’re supposed to be doing and when and especially that they need to keep quiet about it so they don’t spoil the surprise.

Popping the Question
Use his hobbies. Again, when you’re plotting how to ask him, think about his hobbies and interests and use those as a way to make the proposal special. Not only does this show that he’s important to you (since you are, after all, asking him to marry you), you’re also showing that you pay attention to his interests and that you support them.[5]
For example: if he’s interested in archaeology, volunteer for an archaeological dig with him and propose on the dig (you can enlist your fellow volunteers to help). Or you could even make a treasure hunt type proposal and have him dig up the proposal in the backyard.

Pop the question privately. In every rom-com ever it seems, there’s a scene where one person proposes to another and it’s always in front of a bunch of people, but, especially for a guy, it’s best to do this part in private (unless he’s specifically said that he wants to be proposed to in front of a bunch of people).[6]
This way it gives him a chance to think about the proposal without the weight of a bunch of people waiting for his decision. Once he’s said yes, feel free to go announce it from the rooftops.

Keep it simple. Even if you’re planning an elaborate proposal (a sky diving extravaganza, or a scavenger hunt), try and keep the actual proposal itself simple and to the point. What you really need to do with it is tell him why you want to spend the rest of your life with him and would he want to do the same with you. You’ll be nervous (because, who wouldn’t?) so keeping it simple makes it easy for you to remember what you’re going to say. Have a few lines to lead up. You could say something like, “We have so many awesome memories… From now on, I want ALL my memories to have you in them.” and propose. Or, before your day, “I have this wonderful day planned for us, but I just can’t wait… I want us to spend it together as more then just boyfriend and girlfriend” and then propose.

Give him a symbolic gift. You’ll want to give him some sort of symbolic gift, like an engagement ring, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be a ring, especially if he isn’t the type to wear a ring. You know your guy best, so you’ll have to decide what the gift should be, but there are lots of options.[7]
You could get him a wrist watch or pocket watch, because these aresometimes considered the male form of jewelry anyways. You could even have it engraved with both of your names to make it more special.

You could make something handmade for him, like a box containing all your favorite memories together, or a ceramic plate that asks him to marry you.

If he’s the type who wears necklaces, you could get him an engagement necklace, perhaps even with a ring on it.

Engraved lighters are also, often, used as engagement gifts for men (or women) and can be very cool and attractive.

Deal with the aftermath. As you can’t control the outcome, proposing to someone can be very nerve-wracking and make you feel vulnerable. That’s no reason not to do it, but you have to be prepared for every eventuality. If he says yes, great! It’s time for a party. You can set the wedding date, or leave that until sometime in the future (you don’t have to get married right away, just because you got engaged).

If he needs time to think, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to say no. The proposal may simply have caught him by surprise and he really does need to think about what it will mean. Let him do that. If he doesn’t get back to you, talk to him about the proposal and what his concerns are.

If he says no. You are going to feel upset and you have every reason to ask him what his reasons are and if will ever change his mind. It could simply be that there is too much going on at the time (school, a big move, his parents are ill) and he can’t think that far ahead, or it could mean that he doesn’t want to get married. Whatever the reason is, you’re going to have to make some choices about your future, as well. It could be that the two of you aren’t compatible and don’t have the same life goals.

Getting Creative
Set up a treasure hunt. You could have it be a treasure hunt of all the places around your city that are important to you, or a treasure hunt that plays on some of his hobbies. There’s no wrong way to do a treasure hunt (unless it’s too hard and he can’t complete it). He’ll be having a great time and be in fun mood for the last clue (the proposal).

Do a food proposal. Lots of people like a good proposal that has to do with food (as long as he doesn’t end up eating the proposal by accident!). There are lots of ways to use food to make a fun marriage proposal. There are ways to have personalized fortune cookies made. You could haveone made that says ‘Will you marry me?’ and make sure it gets mixed in when you get take-out (or if you make some lovely Chinese food).

Hide a note and symbolic engagement gift (not necessarily a ring) amid abox of delicacies and give them to him. Again, make sure he doesn’t eat the note or the gift by mistake.

Propose through pumpkin carving. Around Halloween go to the pumpkin patch and challenge your guy to a pumpkin carving contest. While he’s diverted, carve ‘will you marry me?’ on your pumpkin and present it to him when you’re both finished carving. You’ll probably win the contest then.

Proposing with extreme sporting. Obviously, this one isn’t for everyone, but if you and your guy are super into extreme sports, it’s a great way to pop the question. You’ll probably need the assistance of your friends or instructors, so make sure they don’t give away the game beforehand! Go sky diving with your guy and have your friends spread out a sign below the two of you that asks him to marry you.

Go scuba diving and have a waterproof sign already planted down on theocean floor for your guy to find with you as you’re swimming around down there together.

Just make sure that your proposal is sincere and heartfelt. It doesn’t have to be some epic Shakespearean sonnet. All it has to do is explain to your guy why you want to spend the rest of your life with him.

If he says “no” or says he needs to think about it, don’t worry! You did a brave thing asking him to marry you and you should be proud of yourself for that.

Be prepared for people to make jokes if you’re a girl proposing to a guy. Society hasn’t evolved enough for that to be seen as something that isn’t unusual and weird. It does not mean that you should listen to those jokes, or not make the proposal.

Sometimes things don’t go according to plan. If the proposal gets sidetracked you can either wing it or you can try again later.

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How to Draw a Turkey

This tutorial will show you four different ways to draw a turkey. Let’s begin!

Cartoon Turkey
Draw a circle.

Sketch a small circle on the right side of the big circle. Connect the small circle with the big one using two curved lines so that it will look like a head, neck and body. Add two curved lines that make a pointed angle on the head for the beak.

Sketch two lines with an angle attached to the body. Draw a triangle on the ends of each line for the turkey’s legs.

Draw a fan-like structure on the rear part of the turkey.

Draw the eyes using small circles. Add a curved line line for the eyebrows. Draw the mouth and a dot for the nostril.

Draw the neck and the caruncles using curved lines cascading from the beak to the neck.

Draw the wings using a big fluffy shape with three curved lines for the feathers.

Using the outline, sketch out the turkey’s body and add the legs. Sketch a series of curved lines forming a collar just below the neck for feather design.

Draw the feet. A turkey’s feet has three claws in front and a small one at the back.

Sketch two layers containing a series of curved lines for the turkey’s fan-like tail. Make the second layer bigger and more elaborate than the first one.

Erase unnecessary lines.

Color the drawing.

Realistic Turkey
Draw a big circle for the body and an oblong overlapping the big circle on the right side.

Add a small circle for the head and connect this to the oblong using two curved lines that serves as the neck. Add two small curved lines that form a pointed angle to the right side of the head for the beak.

Draw lines for a rough outline of the legs and add a triangle on each end for the feet.

Draw a curved line on the left side of the turkey and a fan-like structure for the tail attached to the curved line.

Draw the eyes and define the beak. Draw the snood and the carucles of the neck using curved strokes.

Sketch out the body, taking note of the feather patterns. Note that the back portion of the turkey is a little bumpy so you can sketch out a few outlines of the feathers too.

Darken the fan-like shape of the turkey’s tail.

Sketch and define the legs and toes.

Draw random small strokes all over the turkey’s body for a feathery appearance.

Erase unnecessary lines and refine the feathers using small curved strokes.

Color the drawing.

A Chef Turkey
Draw an oblong with an overlapping big circle below it. This will form the sketch for the turkey’s body and head.

Draw the details of the turkey’s head using circles and curve lines for the beak.

Draw details for the wattle and the head.

Draw the turkey’s hat or toque to look like a cartoon.

Draw details for the left wing using curve lines and also for the feet.

Draw the right wing which holds a ladle. Draw also details for the cooking pot.

Draw the turkey’s fan-shaped tail and details for the feathers.

Trace with a black pen.

Color to your liking, then design the background.

A Roasted Turkey
Draw a horizontally elongated oblong.

Draw a more flattened and elongated oblong below the first with an inner overlapping oblong. This will be the plate.

Draw the details for the cut head, wings, and butt.

Draw an oblong near the butt with small circles or oblongs below it.

Draw the details for the turkey’s leg with a sketch for the leg bone. Draw details for leaves.

Trace with a pen and erase unnecessary lines. Add details.

Color to your liking!

Things You’ll Need


Pencil sharpener

Eraser gum

Colored pencils, crayons, markers or watercolors

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How to Make Pumpkin Pie

That seasonal favorite, the venerable pumpkin pie, is not just for Thanksgiving! It is perfect for any occasion where rich, custardy goodness is called for, or even just to enjoy with the family with a good cup of coffee. It is easy to make, and is healthy and nutritious. Add a dollop of whipped cream on top for an added treat. We’ll show you how!

2 cups cooked, canned or mashed pumpkin (unspiced)

2 slightly beaten eggs

3/4 cup brown sugar

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon ginger

1/2 teaspoon nutmeg or allspice

1/2 teaspoon cloves

1 pint of melted vanilla ice cream

9″ pie crust

Prep the crust. Line a pie pan with pie dough. Place pie weights, or dried beans on the dough to prevent it from rising. Bake at 325ºF (165°C), just until lightly brown—about 15 to 20 minutes. This step is optional, but will help prevent the crust under the custard from becoming soggy. Preheat oven. When you are done with the pie crust, pre-heat the oven to 425° (318°C).
Combine and mix the pumpkin with the eggs. Do this in a large bowl. Mix both ingredients well.
Blend the dry ingredients. In a medium bowl, combine the brown sugar, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, and cloves, and blend thoroughly.
Add spices to the pumpkin mix. Pour the blended spices into the pumpkin and egg mix, and stir thoroughly until the ingredients are well-blended. Add the melted ice cream. Pour the melted ice cream into the pumpkin mix. Mix until well blended so that the white streaks from the ice cream disappear. Pour mixture into your pre-baked pie shell.
Bake at 425ºF (318°C) for 15 minutes.
Reduce heat to 350ºF (177°C). Bake about 45 minutes longer, or until inserted knife comes out clean. Keep an eye every 10-15 minutes or so to make sure the pie crust edge is not getting too done. If it starts to look a little brown, cover it with a pie shield, or wrap the edge in tin foil. Remove when done. Let cool so the custard sets.
Serve with whipped cream and a smile!

You also might want to put the pie on a rack after it is done baking so it won’t heat up your fridge.

To make pumpkin Grape nut pudding, leave out the pie crust and instead grease the pie plate or a casserole dish with butter and pour about 1/2 cup Grape nuts in the bottom of the dish before adding the pumpkin custard mix. Bake as usual.

If you have leftover dough, roll out into a thin square, spread butter on it, sprinkle cinnamon and brown sugar over the butter, roll it into a log, and slice into mini rounds. When you reduce the heat while baking the pie, slip the little cinnamon treats in, and bake until the crust is golden brown—about 15 minutes.

Also for another unique but delicious flavor, you could even add the blueberries or another kind of fruit right into the pumpkin mix.

Add toppings such as cherries or apples to give your pie a unique flavor. Many enjoy topping the pie with blueberries for a blueberry-pumpkin, or “blumpkin” pie.

Things You’ll Need
9″ pie pan

Cooling rack

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